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I could write a book about this...
1) BLACK WOMEN CHASING THE WRONG BROTHAS: On any street corner, on any subway train, in any office building, you can find a large number of black women who truly believe that there are no "good" black men out there. It a damn shame they believe that myth.
The truth is that there are PLENTY of "good" black men out there -- good defined as intelligent (with or without a college education), kind, warm, decent, and loyal. Now, what the problem TRULY is is that most of these guys look like fashion models, Hollywood actors, or pretty-boy thug rappers/singers.
Most of the decent brothas I know are average looking, some are a little overweight, some might not have 6-figure salaries, but they do make a good living. For whatever reason, a generation of black women have learned how to systematically ignore these men and pursue men who have little going on intellectually or professionally and hope to change those directionless men into good husbands and fathers.
Sadly, it does not work, nor will it ever work. But these women who chase thugs and criminals -- and then complain about those men -- crowd our magazine covers, clog up radio talk shows, and sell thousands of books that continue this horrible myth.
It angers me because it makes it seem like the majority of black men are worthless, stupid, criminal, and godless. Even though guys like me are the majority of black men, people have learned to think of us as "special" or worse, non-existent. Then, all the black men and women who should be meeting, simply dont. And the cycle continues...
2) BROTHAS SUPPOSEDLY ON THE "D-L": I don't care what people are saying, most black men are not involved in secret homosexual relationships. Sure, there is a problem with the transmission of HIV in the black community, but that is more tied with drug abuse and poor access to preventive measures than a whole community of black men sneaking around with other men.
This contributes to what I was saying in #1 -- more myths that erode the idea that most black men are doing the right thing.
3)SELF-DESTRUCTIVE POPULAR CULTURE: Its not just the hip-hop world that is struck with stupidity and superficiality. The majority of songs, movies, TV shows, and books (for those who actually read books anymore) are constructed with the lowest common demoninator in mind. Hip-hop is an easy target because of its flash and spectacle, but when you put it together in the end, nothing is really challenging the population to THINK! I hate that!!!
I teach middle school and watch how my students sit there and talk about drugs, and sex, and other unsavory acts as if it was the normal thing to do. Then they turn on TV shows that celebrate laziness and corruption. Its driving me insane!
Thats just the beginning of it all... more later...
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1) BLACK WOMEN CHASING THE WRONG BROTHAS: On any street corner, on any subway train, in any office building, you can find a large number of black women who truly believe that there are no "good" black men out there. It a damn shame they believe that myth.
The truth is that there are PLENTY of "good" black men out there -- good defined as intelligent (with or without a college education), kind, warm, decent, and loyal. Now, what the problem TRULY is is that most of these guys look like fashion models, Hollywood actors, or pretty-boy thug rappers/singers.
Most of the decent brothas I know are average looking, some are a little overweight, some might not have 6-figure salaries, but they do make a good living. For whatever reason, a generation of black women have learned how to systematically ignore these men and pursue men who have little going on intellectually or professionally and hope to change those directionless men into good husbands and fathers.
Sadly, it does not work, nor will it ever work. But these women who chase thugs and criminals -- and then complain about those men -- crowd our magazine covers, clog up radio talk shows, and sell thousands of books that continue this horrible myth.
It angers me because it makes it seem like the majority of black men are worthless, stupid, criminal, and godless. Even though guys like me are the majority of black men, people have learned to think of us as "special" or worse, non-existent. Then, all the black men and women who should be meeting, simply dont. And the cycle continues...
2) BROTHAS SUPPOSEDLY ON THE "D-L": I don't care what people are saying, most black men are not involved in secret homosexual relationships. Sure, there is a problem with the transmission of HIV in the black community, but that is more tied with drug abuse and poor access to preventive measures than a whole community of black men sneaking around with other men.
This contributes to what I was saying in #1 -- more myths that erode the idea that most black men are doing the right thing.
3)SELF-DESTRUCTIVE POPULAR CULTURE: Its not just the hip-hop world that is struck with stupidity and superficiality. The majority of songs, movies, TV shows, and books (for those who actually read books anymore) are constructed with the lowest common demoninator in mind. Hip-hop is an easy target because of its flash and spectacle, but when you put it together in the end, nothing is really challenging the population to THINK! I hate that!!!
I teach middle school and watch how my students sit there and talk about drugs, and sex, and other unsavory acts as if it was the normal thing to do. Then they turn on TV shows that celebrate laziness and corruption. Its driving me insane!
Thats just the beginning of it all... more later...
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Re: WHY I am angry...
Mon, August 2, 2004 - 5:31 PMHave you read the article in Newsweek Magazine (I think it was) that had Beyonce, Star Jones, and Alfre Woodard (I think) on the cover? It showed some statistic on how more black women are going non-black men (espcsially educcated balck women). The writer reasoned that black woman fell they deserved someone who is educated like themselves, and there are not enough educated black men in the pool of available black men. I could be slightly wrong on one of these details, but it is an article worth checking out. From March 3, 2003.
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Re: WHY I am angry...
Wed, August 4, 2004 - 2:44 PMBrandon- doesn't your #2 contradict your #1?
1)"...It angers me because it makes it seem like the majority of black men are worthless, stupid, criminal, and godless... "
2) "...Sure, there is a problem with the transmission of HIV in the black community, but that is more tied with drug abuse .... "
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Re: WHY I am angry...
Fri, August 6, 2004 - 2:53 PMRazteca--
No it doesn't at all. I am wondering where you put together your logic? I said in #1 that there is a perception that black men are problematic... perception = an idea that is sometimes based upon false information...
In #2, I make no real connection to black men as being the overall problem in the community. HIV transmission is a problem not because of black men, but because of a host of factors that stem from reduced police protection in inner-cities during the 80s (which led to neighborhoods where the flow of intravenous drugs and their use exploded relatively unchecked), and a general lack of information or access to AIDS preventive measures.
Lately much of that has changed. But I don't see where the connection is between the quotes you decided to highlight.
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Re: WHY I am angry...
Mon, June 13, 2005 - 11:06 AMYeah, I re-read the quotes just now and I have no idea what I was thinking at the time because it doesn't make sense off hand. Maybe if I go back and read the original post, it'll come back to me. I'll get back to you on that.
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Response to Brandon's Argument
Fri, October 21, 2005 - 10:11 AMI totally agree with you Brandon...
I live out in California and I know about what you are saying all too well. I guess the brothers who are righteous are considered "square" and not "black" enough to live up to the standards of some black women. It is bad enough that our women have low standards when it comes to us as individuals. We can't even be respected for who we are by our own characteristics and by our great Blackness. A white boy can get away with going out with a sistah, because he is a "good" man with a job, while a brotha who is trying to make it, is just another nigga... Excuse my language, but that is how I truly feel. Our society has established black men''s roles as thugs, ballplayers and sex addicts. I guess MLK's "I Have a Dream" speech was just a dream. It's time for our sistah's to give us the respect that is pass due. If they won't give us the benefit of the doubt, then who will?
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Re: WHY I am angry...
Sat, November 25, 2006 - 2:48 PMBrandon,
Most of the good black men are scooped up, and the black women who got them are not advertising. The best thing to do is have patience with the woman you are dealing with. Have faith in black women, we are all dealing with alot of pain in this hideous society.
Just work through it, do whatever you have to do to take care of yourself and to help your woman take care of herself, because it is very important that you to stay focused. We need as many good black men as possible. We cannot to let this society derail us. We are definitely under seige.
We also need to produce many more good black men by raising our children to be good productive members of society that fight racism at every turn. This can only be done by a black man and a black woman TOGETHER.
I know several good black men. Most of them are married and are doing what's right. I have a good man in my life. There are too many jail, but many many more than that are productive members of this society.
We cannot let the white ruling class propaganda convince us that we are up shit creek.
It is not true.
